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CBT: How Checking Contributes to Mental Health Problems (Eating Disorders, Depression, Anxiety)

Although common ‘disorders’ (e.g., eating disorders, anxiety, and depression) look different on the surface, there are some common underlying mechanisms. One of these is checking. I’m going to go explain the role of checking in a selection of common mental health problems. Checking in Health Anxiety Examples: – Person goes to the Dr for blood...

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7 Tips for Not Personalizing

1. Don’t catastrophize knock backs – If you get a rejection, it doesn’t mean you’re never going to be successful. – If you get negative feedback on a piece of work, it doesn’t mean you have no capacity to become better at it or that you’re not talented. If you find yourself personalizing, ask yourself...

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5 Tips for Irritability

1. Do some kind of mindfulness practice. Try this or any of these. Learn enough about the philosophy of mindfulness meditation that you know what you’re doing. Since most people won’t want to do formal practice everyday on a permanent basis, do it everyday initially until you feel confident with it, and then do it...

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Changing Your Cognitive Style

I mentioned on FB yesterday how much my cognitive style has changed as a result of my psychology training. One of the readers asked me to say more about how it had changed, so here’s my answer. Hopefully this post will show people how it is possible to dramatically change your cognitive style. – I’m...

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10 Practical Tips for Avoiding Winter Weight Gain

This is for my kiwi readers – it’s freezing here at the moment! I got the idea to write this from an interview I did for the NZ Herald about weight gain during winter. 1. Eat at regular times, that are not too far apart. It will help you learn to recognize that if you...

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5 Types of Good Stress – My latest article for Psychology Today

Common advice is to minimize stress, but here are five types of stress that can help create a meaningful life. Read More STRESS 5 Types of Good Stress By Alice Boyes, Ph.D. Click to read my latest article for Psychology Today http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/in-practice/201206/5-types-good-stress Photo: License: Creative Commons Attribution 2.0 Generic. Forest Park by Philip Leara...

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5 Practical, Creative Tips for Soothing a Low Mood

1. Do something “perspective expanding” either in terms of time or space. Examples: Time: look into the eyes of someone alive in the 1400s by visiting an art gallery. Space: A walk/coffee somewhere with an expansive view, a drive. Both time & space: A trip into the mountains (they’re giant & they’ve been there a...

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7 Questions to Ask Your Partner to Assess the Health of Your Relationship: Relationships Quiz.

Ask your partner to answer True/False to this relationships quiz. It’s their perception that’s important rather than your view of whether their answer is justified. Yes you do want to know what they really think! 1. Do you know you’re important to me? 2. Do you feel like you can take emotional risks with me?...

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5 Reasons Why Travel Is Good For You – The Positive Psychology of Travel

1. Geographic Distance Leads to Improved Problem Solving (More Creative and Expansive Problem Solving) psychology PhDs use a test of creative problem solving called a creative generation task. It involves being given a problem and being asked to come up with as many possible solutions to that problem as you can. You need to stretch...

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Are You An Introvert or Are You a Highly Sensitive Person?

Number #48 on Amazon.com’s list of bestselling books at the moment is a book called “Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking” I agree with Dr Elaine Aron that the book is more about HSPs – the highly sensitive person – than it is about introverts. That said, I loved...

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