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    29 2012 November

    CBT: How Checking Contributes to Mental Health Problems (Eating Disorders, Depression, Anxiety)

    Although common ‘disorders’ (e.g., eating disorders, anxiety, and depression) look different on the surface, there are some common underlying mechanisms. One of these is checking. I’m going to go explain the role of checking in...

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    10 2012 October

    7 Tips for Not Personalizing

    1. Don’t catastrophize knock backs – If you get a rejection, it doesn’t mean you’re never going to be successful. – If you get negative feedback on a piece of work, it doesn’t mean you...

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    02 2012 October

    5 Tips for Irritability

    1. Do some kind of mindfulness practice. Try this or any of these. Learn enough about the philosophy of mindfulness meditation that you know what you’re doing. Since most people won’t want to do formal...

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    26 2012 September

    Changing Your Cognitive Style

    I mentioned on FB yesterday how much my cognitive style has changed as a result of my psychology training. One of the readers asked me to say more about how it had changed, so here’s...

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    27 2012 June

    10 Practical Tips for Avoiding Winter Weight Gain

    This is for my kiwi readers – it’s freezing here at the moment! I got the idea to write this from an interview I did for the NZ Herald about weight gain during winter. 1....

28 2012 May
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5 Reasons Why Travel Is Good For You – The Positive Psychology of Travel

1. Geographic Distance Leads to Improved Problem Solving (More Creative and Expansive Problem Solving) psychology PhDs use a test of creative problem solving called a creative generation task. It involves being given a problem and being asked to come up with as many possible solutions to that problem as you can. You need to stretch...

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24 2012 May
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Are You An Introvert or Are You a Highly Sensitive Person?

Number #48 on Amazon.com’s list of bestselling books at the moment is a book called “Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking” I agree with Dr Elaine Aron that the book is more about HSPs – the highly sensitive person – than it is about introverts. That said, I loved...

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23 2012 May
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100 Fun Things to Do When You're Bored or Depressed

As problems gets bigger, often the rest of life seems to shrink. When people have a lot of stress – their time, energy, and thoughts often get consumed by those problems. As people spend more time and energy thinking about their problems, they spend less time and energy pursuing their interests. What are your unique...

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23 2012 May
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Boost Happiness in Lasting Ways through Positive Mental Habits

I made a 2 minute *infomercial* for one of my online products. Positive Psychology Project by Dr Alice Boyes If you’re reading this in email, you might need to click to see the video. Likely to be suitable for people who are mildly depressed or anxious....

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18 2012 May
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Is This Relationship Right? 10 Relationship Questions to Help You Decide "Should I Stay or Should I Go?"

These are just suggested questions based on research about relationship quality. Matters of the heart are complicated. 1. When we are argue, do either of us express contempt? Contempt is basically the biggest predictor of divorce for married couples. The definition of contempt (in relationships science) is that goes beyond other forms of criticism. It...

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17 2012 May
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10 Fascinating Questions About You To Ask Your Mom (For Adults)

Forward the link for this post to your Mom and ask her to answer. People tend to have more positive and stable close relationships when they know detailed answers to the kinds of questions below. 1. Tell me the story of my delivery? What time of day was I born etc? 2. Do you remember...

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17 2012 May
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11 Dating Questions to Ask Before You Commit

1. Do you ever have a hard time accepting No when you want something? Rationale: Is s/he entitled, disrespectful or needy? 2. If you weren’t doing the job you’re doing now, what would you like to do? Rationale: Does s/he have any big plans for dramatic life changes you don’t know about? 3. Do you...

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15 2012 May
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10 Effortless Stress Relief Techniques

Effortless stress relief techniques for busy people. 1. Accept offers of help. For example, if you’re catering a big event, ask your children to help you. Recruit help if necessary. 2. Treat yourself like you’d treat your best friend. If you’re harassed and harangued, or having self-critical or self-doubt thoughts, recognize that you’re having a...

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15 2012 May
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10 Relationship Questions to Better Understand Your Partner

These relationship questions will help you better understand – why they do what they do – why they get angry – how to talk to them – how to please them 1. When you get home from work and your willpower has been drained by making decisions all day, what do you most need? (or...

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15 2012 May
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Low Self Esteem Test – Take the Rosenberg Low Self Esteem Test Free Online

The low self esteem test that is most widely used by researchers is the Rosenberg Low Self Esteem Test. Take Rosenberg Self Esteem Inventory free. The low self esteem test will auto score for you. If you score 15-25 this suggests you are in the normal self esteem range. If you score below 15, this...

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