By Alice Boyes, PhD.

Latest Women's Health Magazine Article – "The Ex Files"

I’m quoted a couple of times in an article by Alice Treloar in the current issue of Women’s Health Magazine (Australia/New Zealand edition). Thanks Alice! Women’s Health Magazine have kindly provided a copy of the article for aliceboyes.com readers. You can view it here. Here are a bunch more articles I’ve written or been quoted...

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By Alice Boyes, PhD.

Relationships Psychology: One of the most useful things I learned from science training?…

One of the most useful things I learned from science training?… …is to pay attention to “disconfirming evidence”. Huh? Our brains have evolved to be very efficient but sometimes this efficiency leads us astray. Human nature is that once a thought takes hold in our minds (e.g. “My partner is useless”) we often only notice...

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By Alice Boyes, PhD.

Informal Mindfulness (Easy Restorative and Relaxing Activities, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy)

On page 9 of this pdf you will find a couple of delightfully simple informal mindfulness exercises. The first one is a mindful showering exercise. If you’re reading that, you’ll know you’re on the right page. These are perfect for people who don’t want to commit to doing something everyday. You can use them whenever...

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By Alice Boyes, PhD.

Tips for When Your Attempts to Get Someone Else To Change Their Behaviour Aren't Working (Applies to Couples, Extended Family etc): Tip 1. "Validating The Valid"

I’ve written before (part of an article containing very important basic info about relationships psychology) about the difference between complaints and criticism, and how criticism is corrosive to relationships – To recap briefly, A complaint is about a specific behaviour. A criticism is – An explicit or implied statement about some fundamental fault with the...

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By Alice Boyes, PhD.

Mindful Eating Experiments

Mindful eating experiments are useful for people who are trying to lose weight. They’re simple and not time consuming. Mindful eating involves paying attention to the sensory experience of eating while you’re eating and mentally describing it to yourself as you eat. Mindful eating is different from savoring – which is something people are commonly...

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By Alice Boyes, PhD.

Ever Get the Feeling that You're Behaving in Ways that Aren't Consistent with Your Values? Values and Goals.

Ever get the feeling that you’re behaving in ways that are consistent with your values? To help overcome this, you might like to try getting clearer on what your values actually are. A therapy called Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT, pronounced like the word rather than A,C,T) has some good ideas for how to do...

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By Alice Boyes, PhD.

10 Tips for Men About What To Do After a Relationship Breakup.

1. Nesting If you’ve moved out of your family home it’s important you create a “nest” for yourself in your new home. e.g. Stock your cupboards with fruit and veg and supplies for cooking. Put some art on the walls. Buy some indoor plants. Move all of your stuff from your prior home. Men frequently...

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By Alice Boyes, PhD.

Relationship Skills: Reconciling Different Perspectives

Susan has the belief that’s its good to spend money enjoying herself now since there are no guarantees she won’t be run over by a bus tomorrow. Her partner Patrick has the belief that its important to delay gratification to build wealth to have more options later. Susan and Patrick argue about money. What do...

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By Alice Boyes, PhD.

Travel Psychology

Extended travel (sabbaticals, Big OEs, moving overseas) is a common pursuit of happiness tactic. How to Maximize the Psychological Benefits of Travel How to understand the emotional dreams that are fueling your travel dreams Let’s say your travel dream is to travel in Europe for 3 months. The deeper emotional goals underlying your travel dream...

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By Alice Boyes, PhD.

DIY Psychological Detective Challenge

I’ve previously written (e.g., here and here) about how people generally understand that their Thoughts/feelings impact their Behaviour But often fail to recognize how their Behaviour impacts their Thoughts/feelings In my experience, even very smart people need a lot of guidance to understand how these concepts relate to their own problems and happiness. Here’s an...

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