By Alice Boyes, PhD.

Advantages Card

What is an Advantages Card? An “Advantages Card” is a simple technique from the Cognitive Therapy Model of Psychology that anyone can use to help themselves stick with a goal. It works with almost any goal that you’re taking daily action towards e.g. sticking with a diet, exercising everyday, not yelling at your children, not...

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By Alice Boyes, PhD.

What's Your Attributional Style?

What the heck is attributional style? “Attributional Style” is about how you explain the causes of events. Why you should care about your attributional style is that it’s related to depression, self esteem, and relationship happiness. psychology PhDs think of attributions as falling along three dimensions. 1. Stable vs Temporary. 2. Global vs. Specific. 3....

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By Alice Boyes, PhD.

How Low/Fluctuating Self Esteem Impairs Relationship Satisfaction

People with low self esteem tend to have “lower quality relationships” than people with healthy self esteem. Their relationships have less love and trust, and more conflict and ambivalence. People with low self esteem’s relationships are also less stable (more likely to break up). Psychologists Dr Sandra Murray and Dr John Holmes developed what’s become...

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By Alice Boyes, PhD.

Positivity Ratio – Self Test

If you head over here to Dr Barb Fredrickson’s website, you can take her “Positivity Ratio Self Test” It takes about 5 minutes, and the results will tell you some important information about yourself. You’ll be asked to rate a list of positive and negative emotions according to how much you’ve felt each emotion in...

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By Alice Boyes, PhD.

Interview with New York City Publicist and Writer Stephanie Schroeder about Publicity Tips for Creative-types, Artists and Independent Business Owners, and about Flourishing with Bipolar Disorder

I met Stephanie through “House Swapping”. She stayed at my sister’s flat in London while my sister stayed at her apartment in Brooklyn. I got the chance to meet Stephanie when I spent the summer subletting an apartment in NY last year. What’s in the interview 1. The first part of the interview is about...

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By Alice Boyes, PhD.

Blowing Bubbles

This is a quick tip for when you want to calm and center yourself, or release tension (e.g. at a job interview, in traffic, or when you’re processing a disappointment). I don’t recommend taking a deep breath. … I recommend taking a slow breath (the Bubbles part is coming…). Breathe in through your nose for...

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By Alice Boyes, PhD.

The Best Relationship Self Help Books

These are the two best relationship self help books. I often recommend these to my therapy clients. 1. The All Time Classic Relationship Self Help Book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert by psychology PhD Dr John Gottman and Nan Silver. (In The How of...

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By Alice Boyes, PhD.

Big 5 Model of Personality and Free Online Big 5 Personality Test (comprehensive)

The Big 5/Big Five is generally considered the most important psychological model of personality. Its supported by a huge amount of scientific research. The premise of the Big 5 is that five dimensions are the most important in understanding people’s personalities: Extroversion, Agreeableness, Conscientiousness, Neuroticism, and Openness to Experience. Everyone who’s interested in understanding their...

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By Alice Boyes, PhD.

Interview with Jen Ozawa from Podcast about Lost – The Transmission

The interview includes lots of personal behind-the-scenes info about Jen and Ryan, and about the Transmission (I also asked about Hawaii vacation tips). Jen Ozawa is half of a groundbreaking and very talented husband and wife podcasting duo from Hawaii who produce “The Transmission”. The Transmission is a fan podcast about the TV show Lost....

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By Alice Boyes, PhD.

Happiness

My favorite conceptualization of happiness is that it’s the combination of 1. The extent to which you feel positive emotions in your life, and 2. Your sense of whether your actions are moving you in your “valued life directions” (vs. the time you spend doing things that aren’t consistent with your valued life directions). Valued...

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