By aliceboyes

How to Build Self Confidence

This article describes a simple, practical technique for How to Build Self Confidence. If you want to know why this works, you can read that section at the bottom of the article. The example I’ve given is a social anxiety situation but you can also use this for situations in which you are feeling low...

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By aliceboyes

Procrastination Help

Real Procrastination Help When you procrastinate, it’s not so much that you’re avoiding doing the procrastinated action,… …you’re avoiding the thoughts, feelings, and physical sensations that get triggered when you do the procrastinated action (or in some cases when you think about doing the procrastinated action). It’s a type of experiential avoidance, meaning you avoid...

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By aliceboyes

How to Improve a Relationship: 1 Minute Tip.

When people think about how to improve a relationship, they typically think about how to decrease negative thoughts, emotions, and interactions. But, increasing positive thoughts, emotions and interactions, is at least as important for improving relationships as decreasing negativity. The following example relates to couples but this advice could be applied to any close relationship....

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Preventing Burnout: Do You Recognize The Early Warning Signs That You're Not Taking Care Of Yourself?

I’m going to give you some ideas, but your task is to come up with a list of 4-6 of your own early warning signs that you’re not taking good enough care of yourself. Hint: Try to make your early warning signs as objective as possible – meaning it would be impossible to dispute whether...

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Here is a Method to Reduce Self Criticism and Feel Better

If you’re a reasonably conscientious person (and if you’re reading a self improvement blog, you probably are!), reducing self-criticism is likely to help you achieve more success and happiness both personally and in your social relationships. A happier you is better for you and for the world (proof of this). The technique below is adapted...

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New Month, New 30 Day Project…..

…..30 Days of Putting Away 1 Item Each Day (i.e. a tidying project). Think of this as a “gateway” project – an easy 30-Day Project like this one is an awesome way to get the confidence to try other 30-Day Projects. And then the sky’s the limit. After doing a few different 30 Day Projects,...

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By aliceboyes

The Benefits of Worrying (250 words)

Often we do the things we do because of hidden payoffs. What’s a hidden payoff of worrying? Worrying protects us from having to do problem solving. Think about it…. If I said “Would you prefer to spend the next 10 minutes worrying about something you commonly worry about? e.g. your weight. Or Would you prefer...

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Productivity – Batching Tasks

The idea of “batching” tasks to streamline your workflow isn’t new, but I thought I’d share a couple of very quick examples of how I actually use this. These are related to finances, but aren’t TOO personal. Batching isn’t something that needs to be applied perfectionistically – you can batch any components of a task...

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By aliceboyes

Free Task Management Download

I made a free download people can use for prioritizing tasks. You can view it online here. To download it so you can use it however you please, click the link above, go to the File Menu, and select “Download As”. – If you are a Microsoft Office user, you can download it as an...

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By aliceboyes

Procrastination / Avoidant Coping

Yesterday I wrote about how people do avoidant coping to avoid difficult thoughts and emotions getting triggered, or to escape from them once they are already occurring. I wrote that the first step to overcoming avoidant coping is nutting out the function of the avoidance i.e., which specific thoughts and emotions the avoidant coping is...

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