Cognitive Biases and Interpersonal Relationships: Part 1


Mary notices herself feeling irritated when her brother in law gives her advice about how to do something she already knows how to do.

She thinks: He must think I’m really stupid if he doesn’t know I already know that. In a way, she feels attacked.

She acts: irritated.

Alternative interpretation.

She thinks: Maybe he was just trying to be helpful. If he was trying to be helpful, then its nice that he expressed caring. She feels better.

She acts: appreciative.