Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)

One of the most common things that happens when people make a change in their behaviour is that they feel more restless than usual. Change = different and often different = feeling more restless than...

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There are at least 4 different types of avoiding feelings. 1. avoiding experiencing feelings 2. avoiding expressing feelings 3. avoiding provoking feelings in other people (e.g. avoiding conflict) 4. trying to escape/avoid when other people...

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Who Will Get Away Unpunished If You Get Unstuck?

September 6, 2010 | 0 Comments

Relationships Let’s say: You see your partner as controlling. Let’s also say: this has large elements of truth. There are 2 psychological barriers to getting unstuck here 1. If you get unstuck (stop being controlled),...

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This is a very easy and quick exercise. What’s awesome about it is that it’s experiential. It requires you to physically experience something rather than attempting to learn only on an intellectual/logical level. Experiential learning...

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The Reassurance Seeking / Anxiety Trap

September 1, 2010 | 0 Comments

Reassurance seeking is a common pattern in clients with high worry (e.g. Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Health Anxiety, Attachment/Relationship anxiety) The “Reassurance Seeking / Anxiety Trap” is that reassurance often works in the short term but...

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Some days, everything is going well and I think I’m a great psychology PhD. Some days I think I am indeed awesome, lol. But, there are moments when it pops into my head that “I’m...

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Are there things YOU think would/might be helpful to you if you did them, but for some reason you feel resistant to trying your idea? It could be anything but examples include: – devising a...

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How you talk about the things you feel negative emotions about can have a surprisingly large impact on how you feel and on your thought processes. When I say “how you talk about things” this...

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Lots of people don’t do things they’d like to do for fear of rejection and the corresponding disappointment. If this is you, then you can break this pattern of avoidance by practicing exposing yourself to...

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Worry

August 15, 2010 | 0 Comments

Often, the “solutions” we use to try to feel happier are actually part of the problem. Here’s an example of how the solutions we use to deal with worry are part of the problem of...

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