Avoidant Coping

The core beliefs that cause the most common problems fall into the following 3 categories. These core beliefs commonly underlie depression and anxiety. Helpless Core Beliefs such as: “I’m incompetent” “I’m needy” “I’m weak” “I’m...

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Sometimes when people use avoidant coping it’s for the purposes of avoiding heavy duty emotions, however it’s also very common for people to use avoidant coping to avoid milder emotions like awkwardness. I very frequently...

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Rumination – One Week Exercise

January 7, 2012 | 0 Comments

Get more advice about coping with rumination in Here’s an idea for a behavioral experiment for people who ruminate (passively & repeatedly think about the causes or consequences of problems without moving to active problem...

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Short link for Sharing http://youtu.be/d1Jkz4YEebE Short link for Sharing http://youtu.be/s1zTERiowLM...

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CBT Techniques – The Thought Record

November 8, 2011 | 0 Comments

If you like this post, get loads more examples of simple CBT techniques This is example of a Disputing Thoughts Record – a common CBT technique. This is my version of a CBT technique called...

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Procrastination / Avoidant Coping

August 16, 2011 | 0 Comments

Yesterday I wrote about how people do avoidant coping to avoid difficult thoughts and emotions getting triggered, or to escape from them once they are already occurring. I wrote that the first step to overcoming...

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Sarah Sarah is a people-pleaser. When people ask her to do things or invite her places, never in a million years would it occur to her that she could say “no” even if she wanted...

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Fatigue and Avoidance (under 400 words)

August 10, 2011 | 0 Comments

Let’s think about a bear. A bear hibernates in winter to avoid the dangers of winter. Humans have evolved a similar mechanism. Sometimes when we sense a threat, our bodies respond by making us want...

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1 Minute Procrastination Tip.

August 5, 2011 | 0 Comments

Try this 1 min tip next time you notice yourself procrastinating about something important....

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The Benefits of Non-Avoidant Coping Diary

March 20, 2011 | 0 Comments

This is a followup for people who have already done the Costs of Avoidance worksheet, and Avoidance and Suffering Diary, as outlined in the previous post here. If you’re a newer reader, you can easily...

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