Avoidant Coping

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Sharing Some Personal Tips: The Two Minute Rule

November 22, 2010 | 0 Comments

I love hearing about the time management tips that other people ACTUALLY use. I thought I’d share some of the tips that I use. The first one is “the two minute rule” and comes from...

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"The Under-Regulation Reset" – Part 2

November 8, 2010 | 0 Comments

Following on from my last post (“The Under-Regulation Reset” – Part 1), something else that people who are in the habit of under-regulating their behaviour tend to struggle with is monitoring. Self-Monitoring is a skill...

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In a previous post, I wrote about “If you aren’t willing to have anxiety, you will have it”. What this saying means is that the things people do to try to avoid experiencing anxiety-provoking thoughts...

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Something I’ve learned as a therapist is that people keep a heck of a lot of their best qualities hidden inside rather than expressing those qualities so other people can see them. Because people are...

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Are there things YOU think would/might be helpful to you if you did them, but for some reason you feel resistant to trying your idea? It could be anything but examples include: – devising a...

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Lots of people don’t do things they’d like to do for fear of rejection and the corresponding disappointment. If this is you, then you can break this pattern of avoidance by practicing exposing yourself to...

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Schedule a Therapy Session with Yourself

August 13, 2010 | 0 Comments

You can try this even if you’ve never been to therapy… I typically give this tip to clients when they move from weekly appointments* to less frequent appointments: Keep your therapy appointment time but schedule...

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One psychological model of self control is that it’s like a “mental muscle”. According to the model, self control – is “a limited resource” that gets depleted and functions less well after already used (in...

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How To REALLY Overcome Your Avoidant Coping

August 9, 2010 | 0 Comments

Here’s another technique to change avoidant emotion and behaviour patterns when logical thinking strategies aren’t enough. I’ll use a similar avoidant coping example to the one I used in my last post. Let’s say one...

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Avoidant coping is about trying to avoid experiencing painful thoughts, feelings, memories, or sensations. Here are two types you should try to learn to recognize in yourself. Type 1. Avoiding situations. Type 2. Avoiding behaviours....

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