This post is a long one because it contains instructions for one of the most important Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) skills. You might want to print it – If you click on the blog post title you will find buttons for printing or emailing at the bottom of that page.
How to Use Disputing Questions to [...]
One of the first things I do when I’m working with couples who want to have a happier relationship is to help them understand the following info.
Couples who are having problems are typically stuck in one or more (often all 3) of these three patterns of interaction.
The type of Couples Therapy I do in part [...]
This quick and easy tip is applicable to struggling couples who need help to overcome problem patterns of interacting with each other AND to partnerships that are already in generally good shape for further enhancing happiness.
THE CHALLENGE:
Once a day for a week (it might be more realistic to aim for once a day for 5 [...]
A couple of months ago I wrote about Julie Powell – the real Julie from the Julie & Julia movie (you can read my earlier post here). Julie’s year long cooking project, and the blog she wrote about her project, is such a cool example of how quirky, creative (very broadly defined) personal “projects” or [...]
I said in my last post that I would write some ideas for life experiments. There is also some info about reducing anxiety included later in this post (not particularly related to life experiments but you’ll see why I’ve included it here).
This list is mostly to stimulate your own ideas.
If these ideas seem boring [...]
A.J. Jacobs is a journalist/author who does “life experiments” and writes about his experiences. His third book was published last month and he also has a day job as an editor at Esquire magazine in New York. I decided to blog about his experiments because they very nicely illustrate some extremely useful general psychological principles [...]
This is a follow-up post to yesterday’s post about attaining life dreams.
What if you don’t know what you want? You don’t know what surface goals would help you achieve your deep goals?
A good place to start is with what you know you like and extrapolate. For example, if you have a particular skill and have [...]
Fitness Life Magazine have provided a free copy of the feature article I wrote for their July issue for aliceboyes.com readers.
You can read the full article here – It’s the Thought that Counts: Psychological Tips For Dieting Success. (To download a copy, Right click on link and select “Save link as” and the file will [...]
Last week I did a phone interview with world-leading Positive Psychologist (i.e. happiness scientist) Professor Barb Fredrickson.
Martin Seligman has called Barb Fredrickson “the Genius of the Positive Psychology Movement”.
Barb is author of the 2009 book Positivity: Groundbreaking Research Reveals How to Embrace the Hidden Strength of Positive Emotions, Overcome Negativity, and Thrive.
Here’s our conversation. [...]
If you head over here to Dr Barb Fredrickson’s website, you can take her “Positivity Ratio Self Test”
It takes about 5 minutes, and the results will tell you some important information about yourself.
You’ll be asked to rate a list of positive and negative emotions according to how much you’ve felt each emotion in the past [...]
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These are the two best self help books about relationships. I often recommend them to my therapy clients.
1. The All Time Classic The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert by Psychologist Dr John Gottman and Nan Silver. (In The How of Happiness, Sonja Lyubomirsky described it [...]
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I recently finished listening to the audiobook version of Snoop by Dr Sam Gosling (Personality Psychologist).
It’s about clues you can get about other people’s personalities [...]
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“Positivity” is part of a new generation of self help books based on sound scientific research from Positive Psychology. Positive Psychology is a newish field [...]
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The How of Happiness: A new approach to getting the life you want.
Reading time for this article: 10 minutes (there is [...]
