Depression

In my last blog post, I wrote about why negative emotions affect thoughts. Here’s another thinking distortion that leads to irritability. Personalizing This cognitive bias is not necessarily relevant to you but it might be....

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Let’s think about your inner caveperson. The evolutionary purpose of negative emotions (i.e. why we have them – just like we have evolved opposable thumbs for a purpose) is mainly that they are a signaling...

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A common implicit assumption problem

October 21, 2010 | 0 Comments

Implicit assumptions that are either just plain wrong or over-generalized are at the root of a lot of suffering and stuckness. Here’s a common implicit assumption problem Person makes implicit assumption “i can’t be good...

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When you’re feeling depressed or overwhelmed, try doing some “top of the cliff” problem solving. By “top of the cliff” I mean problem solving that involves putting a structure in place that will ease your...

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Example – Max Max finds that getting work completed and out of the way helps him more relaxed and in control. Currently, Max is going through major personal stress and work is busy. His coping...

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2 Different Ways of Improving Your Mood

September 29, 2010 | 0 Comments

One way to think of mood is as a spiral of your thoughts/emotions > your behaviour > results/other people’s reactions > your thoughts/emotions > and so on… The good news is that there is an...

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Secondary gains are the “benefits” people get from NOT overcoming a problem. For many people who are stuck, secondary gains are an important mechanism in why they stay stuck. Secondary gain is usually not something...

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Something I’ve learned as a therapist is that people keep a heck of a lot of their best qualities hidden inside rather than expressing those qualities so other people can see them. Because people are...

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There are at least 4 different types of avoiding feelings. 1. avoiding experiencing feelings 2. avoiding expressing feelings 3. avoiding provoking feelings in other people (e.g. avoiding conflict) 4. trying to escape/avoid when other people...

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When people are feeling negative emotions (e.g. due to depression, anxiety, or relationship problems), their thinking becomes more negative, narrow, and rigid. People tend to get very “all or nothing” and “black and white.” Achieving...

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