Depression

If you are depressed or anxious (especially if you are socially anxious) try to catch yourself guessing – that someone doesn’t particularly like you, or is having negative thoughts about you – that someone is...

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When people try to figure out their values it can be confusing. In my experience of working with clients, the most useful values are typically really simple ones that guide your actions in a helpful...

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Avoidant Coping is one of the main causes of out-of-control stress, depression, anxiety, low self esteem, relationship problems, and eating issues. Avoidant coping is about trying to avoid experiencing painful thoughts, feelings, memories, or sensations....

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This is one of my favorite tips for feeling calmer and more confident… …Try to catch yourself when you are avoiding something. There are two types of avoidant coping you need to catch. Type 1....

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Opposite action is a new way of thinking about what to do when you’re feeling – anger – sadness/disappointment – anxiety, or – guilt/shame/embarrassment. The ways people habitually respond to these emotions often make their...

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A week after Daylight Savings Time ended I’m still feeling lethargic. Here’s some advice for anyone who’s feeling the same. (For international readers who are confused, in New Zealand we just entered fall and turned...

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When I meet new clients I often find that some of the ways they’ve been attempting to cope with their problems are likely to have been making their problems worse. In fact, its common that...

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One of the most useful things I learned from science training?… …is to pay attention to “disconfirming evidence”. Huh? Our brains have evolved to be very efficient but sometimes this efficiency leads us astray. Human...

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Ever get the feeling that you’re behaving in ways that are consistent with your values? To help overcome this, you might like to try getting clearer on what your values actually are. A therapy called...

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1. Nesting If you’ve moved out of your family home it’s important you create a “nest” for yourself in your new home. e.g. Stock your cupboards with fruit and veg and supplies for cooking. Put...

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