Happiness

One psychological model of self control is that it’s like a “mental muscle”. According to the model, self control – is “a limited resource” that gets depleted and functions less well after already used (in...

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Young Schema Questionnaire

August 9, 2010 | 0 Comments

Looking for the Schema Therapy textbook? You can get it here – . Or, get the Schema Therapy based self-help book . Understand Yourself Using The Young Schema Questionnaire Here’s a tool you might like...

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Here’s a basic explanation of emotion regulation development that I quite often give to clients. How people learn emotion regulation is that as children, at first, our parents regulate our emotions. For example, a child...

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Avoidant coping is about trying to avoid experiencing painful thoughts, feelings, memories, or sensations. Here are two types you should try to learn to recognize in yourself. Type 1. Avoiding situations. Type 2. Avoiding behaviours....

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If you are depressed or anxious (especially if you are socially anxious) try to catch yourself guessing – that someone doesn’t particularly like you, or is having negative thoughts about you – that someone is...

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Taking Yourself Seriously

July 30, 2010 | 0 Comments

I’m currently on my annual ‘sabbatical’ in New York City, hence the lack of posting lately. I will be back in New Zealand at the end of August and will start taking bookings for new...

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When people try to figure out their values it can be confusing. In my experience of working with clients, the most useful values are typically really simple ones that guide your actions in a helpful...

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Avoidant Coping is one of the main causes of out-of-control stress, depression, anxiety, low self esteem, relationship problems, and eating issues. Avoidant coping is about trying to avoid experiencing painful thoughts, feelings, memories, or sensations....

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Giving Your Negative Self Talk a Name

May 25, 2010 | 0 Comments

This is a Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) technique that lots of my clients report finding very useful. Its helpful for identifying and diffusing your negative self talk. First, identify some of your negative self talk...

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This is one of my favorite tips for feeling calmer and more confident… …Try to catch yourself when you are avoiding something. There are two types of avoidant coping you need to catch. Type 1....

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