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Taking Yourself Seriously

I’m currently on my annual ‘sabbatical’ in New York City, hence the lack of posting lately. I will be back in New Zealand at the end of August and will start taking bookings for new clients sometime next week. Post topic When I’m away, I spend some of my time doing creative things that are [...]

Informal Mindfulness (Easy Restorative and Relaxing Activities, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy)

On page 9 of this pdf you will find a couple of delightfully simple informal mindfulness exercises. The first one is a mindful showering exercise. If you’re reading that, you’ll know you’re on the right page. These are perfect for people who don’t want to commit to doing something everyday. You can use them whenever [...]

Tips for When Your Attempts to Get Someone Else To Change Their Behaviour Aren't Working (Applies to Couples, Extended Family etc): Tip 1. "Validating The Valid"

I’ve written before (part of an article containing very important basic info about relationships psychology) about the difference between complaints and criticism, and how criticism is corrosive to relationships – To recap briefly, A complaint is about a specific behavior. A criticism is – An explicit or implied statement about some fundamental fault with the [...]