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Young Schema Questionnaire

August 9, 2010 | 0 Comments

Looking for the Schema Therapy textbook? You can get it here – . Or, get the Schema Therapy based self-help book . Understand Yourself Using The Young Schema Questionnaire Here’s a tool you might like...

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Here’s a basic explanation of emotion regulation development that I quite often give to clients. How people learn emotion regulation is that as children, at first, our parents regulate our emotions. For example, a child...

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The therapeutic relationship

August 6, 2010 | 0 Comments

I was at a book talk last night (hosted by Susan Shapiro, who is an interesting speaker if you ever get the chance to hear her talk). At the event, a fellow therapist* made a...

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Avoidant coping is about trying to avoid experiencing painful thoughts, feelings, memories, or sensations. Here are two types you should try to learn to recognize in yourself. Type 1. Avoiding situations. Type 2. Avoiding behaviours....

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I recently did an interview for an upcoming edition of Glamour (a US women’s magazine). The journalist Genevieve Field asked me for some tips about body image. Here’s what I said (slightly edited). The interview...

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The Number 1 Relationship Mistake?

June 20, 2010 | 0 Comments

If you’re in an unhappy relationship (or you’re just unhappy with aspects of your relationship), one way to virtually guarantee that you’ll remain unhappy is to think that what’s needed for your relationship to change...

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Date night

June 13, 2010 | 0 Comments

When people are experiencing a problem like depression, anxiety or stress, they often fall out of the habit of tending to their relationship. If you and your partner are out of the habit of going...

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When people try to figure out their values it can be confusing. In my experience of working with clients, the most useful values are typically really simple ones that guide your actions in a helpful...

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Avoidant Coping is one of the main causes of out-of-control stress, depression, anxiety, low self esteem, relationship problems, and eating issues. Avoidant coping is about trying to avoid experiencing painful thoughts, feelings, memories, or sensations....

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Opposite action is a new way of thinking about what to do when you’re feeling – anger – sadness/disappointment – anxiety, or – guilt/shame/embarrassment. The ways people habitually respond to these emotions often make their...

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