Relationships

Consider that people have basic personality styles and then a range of different behaviours that stem from those basic styles. Sometimes the personality styles we love most about our partners are a double edged sword...

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Do you have secret (or not so secret) fears about yourself? Things you fear might be true about you? Or things you fear other people might think about you? Common secret fears include: I’m out...

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Weight and Relationships Study

June 26, 2009 | 0 Comments

Excitingly for me, yesterday an article about a study I conducted with Professor Janet Latner from University of Hawaii was featured in the NZ Herald (If you’re overweight and looking for love, it pays to...

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The Science of Heartbreak

June 22, 2009 | 0 Comments

I was recently interviewed about “How to breakup without breaking down” by Tara Ali, Features Editor for Women’s Health Magazine. You can view a pdf copy of the article free here. The article is in...

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Understanding your psychological “raw spots” can help you make sense of your emotional reactions. Understanding other people’s raw spots (e.g. partners’ raw spots) can help you make sense of their emotional reactions. How to Recognize...

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Last week I did a phone interview with world-leading Positive psychology PhD (i.e. happiness scientist) Professor Barb Fredrickson. Martin Seligman has called Barb Fredrickson “the Genius of the Positive Psychology Movement”. Barb is author of...

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5 pieces of parenting advice that you can also use to influence your partner’s behaviour and enhance couple relationship closeness. 1. “Catch Them Being Good” aka give attention to behaviours you want to increase. Attention...

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6 Surprising Facts about Relationships

May 6, 2009 | 0 Comments

All of these are findings from highly quality studies by relationships scientists. Casual Sex 1. 30% of men are less comfortable with casual sex than the average woman. Breaking-up 2. Women break up with men...

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I recently did a UK magazine interview about how couples can successfully negotiate and cope with moving overseas, and although the article is about moving overseas, the advice is broadly applicable to talking about/negotiating any...

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This guide will show you how to do that. The relationship between surface goals and deep goals Surface goals are things like – Get married. Have a tidy house. Lose weight. Volunteer abroad. Get a...

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