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Overgeneralization Psychology

January 1, 2011 | 0 Comments

A common problem is that thoughts that have some validity in some contexts become overgeneralized and cause problems in other contexts. Huh? Examples coming up… You can help yourself a lot if you can learn...

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Example Ari is 22. Sometime in his growing up, he developed the idea that he is “unlikeable”. Here are 3 coping strategies Ari might use for coping with this painful thought 1. Avoiding getting into...

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Procrastination and Depression

December 6, 2010 | 0 Comments

Ever hear the joke about how students’ rooms are cleanest when they’re supposed to be studying for exams?(because all of a sudden cleaning becomes appealing when compared to exam study) How does procrastination relate to...

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"The Under-Regulation Reset" – Part 2

November 8, 2010 | 0 Comments

Following on from my last post (“The Under-Regulation Reset” – Part 1), something else that people who are in the habit of under-regulating their behaviour tend to struggle with is monitoring. Self-Monitoring is a skill...

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"The Under-Regulation Reset" – Part 1

November 7, 2010 | 0 Comments

Quite a few of the clients I see for problems like depression, anxiety, or low self esteem, have lost (or never had) confidence in committing to consistently doing a particular behaviour in a particular circumstance,...

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In my last blog post, I wrote about why negative emotions affect thoughts. Here’s another thinking distortion that leads to irritability. Personalizing This cognitive bias is not necessarily relevant to you but it might be....

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Let’s think about your inner caveperson. The evolutionary purpose of negative emotions (i.e. why we have them – just like we have evolved opposable thumbs for a purpose) is mainly that they are a signaling...

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A common implicit assumption problem

October 21, 2010 | 0 Comments

Implicit assumptions that are either just plain wrong or over-generalized are at the root of a lot of suffering and stuckness. Here’s a common implicit assumption problem Person makes implicit assumption “i can’t be good...

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This post covers ONE of the most common reasons for relationship communication failure, and includes HOW TO advice at the bottom. Flooding Psychology – Psychological flooding is one of the biggest things that gets in...

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“If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you always got.” psychology PhD – Steven Hayes Examples: If you continue to believe a particular belief about yourself. If you continue reacting...

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