Self Esteem

Example – Max Max finds that getting work completed and out of the way helps him more relaxed and in control. Currently, Max is going through major personal stress and work is busy. His coping...

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2 Different Ways of Improving Your Mood

September 29, 2010 | 0 Comments

One way to think of mood is as a spiral of your thoughts/emotions > your behaviour > results/other people’s reactions > your thoughts/emotions > and so on… The good news is that there is an...

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Secondary gains are the “benefits” people get from NOT overcoming a problem. For many people who are stuck, secondary gains are an important mechanism in why they stay stuck. Secondary gain is usually not something...

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Something I’ve learned as a therapist is that people keep a heck of a lot of their best qualities hidden inside rather than expressing those qualities so other people can see them. Because people are...

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Who Will Get Away Unpunished If You Get Unstuck?

September 6, 2010 | 0 Comments

Relationships Let’s say: You see your partner as controlling. Let’s also say: this has large elements of truth. There are 2 psychological barriers to getting unstuck here 1. If you get unstuck (stop being controlled),...

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This is a very easy and quick exercise. What’s awesome about it is that it’s experiential. It requires you to physically experience something rather than attempting to learn only on an intellectual/logical level. Experiential learning...

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Some days, everything is going well and I think I’m a great psychology PhD. Some days I think I am indeed awesome, lol. But, there are moments when it pops into my head that “I’m...

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Here are 3 cycles I frequently see in people who are having relationships problems. These particularly commonly occur when one or both partners has low self esteem. Person feels frustrated > Person acts out in...

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Social Anxiety Quick Tip

August 27, 2010 | 0 Comments

If you’re socially anxious, remember when you’re having a conversation with someone that your conversation partner has 50% of the responsibility for the conversation going well. Its common for people with social anxiety to assume...

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Lots of people don’t do things they’d like to do for fear of rejection and the corresponding disappointment. If this is you, then you can break this pattern of avoidance by practicing exposing yourself to...

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